This post is from my mother, Maria Crawford. It’s very timely and well written. Enjoy…..
1 John 4:7-8 (Amplified Bible)
7Beloved, let us love one another, for love is (springs) from God; and he who loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively] to know and understand God [to perceive and recognize and get a better and clearer knowledge of Him].
8He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love.
One of the most over used words in the dictionary is love - there are so many things that we attach this emotion to - I love ice cream - I love my dog - i love my job - and in the English language we use that same word to say I love my husband (or wife), I love my children, i love my parents.
It seems like there should be more than one word to express love in English as there is in Greek. For those that are interested I have attached a page from Wilkipedia the different meanings of the word love in the Greek language.
What I want to share with you today is my own journey with love. When I became an adult I did not have a natural ability to love - years of being rejected and disappointed by those I loved caused me to be on guard, to be unable to really trust people’s intentions, and certainly not their heart. I really lived a double standard because I conveyed a desire to sacrificially serve people and to give unselfishly, placing myself in a position of giving, so I would not be dependent on others to give to me - therein making it difficult for me to be disappointed!
How many know that when you live like that and you say you are a Christian - it becomes a prime opportunity for God to make you - DEPENDENT! For years I suffered being dependent on people, places, and things - out of my control (and that is really what it is all about) and being forced to live contrary to my goals and aspirations -
The whole story would take a book to tell - so I’m going to skip to the day when I realized that i was not just singing the song in church:
“Beloved, let us love one another - for love is of God - and everyone that loveth is born of God and knoweth God -
He that Loveth not, knoweth not God, because God is love -
Beloved, let us love one another - 1 John 4: 7 & 8.”
No, I was no longer singing it - something had happened to me - and when I read:
14We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death. 1 jOHN 3: 14 KJV
– or to make it plainer –
14 If we love our Christian brothers and sisters,[a] it proves that we have passed from death to life. But a person who has no love is still dead.NLT
I found out that no longer was I afraid to be hurt, afraid to be rejected, afraid that I would not be chosen over someone else - that God really did have something special just for me - and that He really did have enough to go around - I was not in competition for scarce resources! The way I learned this was through many painful and challenging situations - but the revelation that I learned it was one of the most marvelous discoveries that I have made in my life!
GOD IS LOVE! and GOD LIVES IN ME - LOVES ME - LOVES THROUGH ME - and there is nothing I can do about it - it becomes as natural as breathing.
My journey of discovery went even further when I realized one day that I felt sorry for “my enemies’ going through painful circumstances. Rather than rejoicing that they had “got theirs” - I felt compassion and empathy - wow - it was then I really knew I had passed from death unto life - I was saved - FROM MYSELF! Glory!
I believe one of the greatest gifts God has given us - is the capacity to forgive those who have hurt us, wronged us, schemed against us - held us in low esteem. It is also a gift that we cannot pull out of a hat - it is a by-product of a life surrendered to God.
As we strive to find ways to show those we love that we love them this Christmas - join with me in asking God to exercise the gift of forgiveness to those who have not loved us - therein is true freedom - therein is life!
God Bless you This Day,
Maria